iHollaback.com Villainy vs Guidance vs Feminine Safety
By Patricia Britt
A letter to primarily black males of this era.
Doesn't it make you wonder why Little Wayne is always on entertainment news, and Maxwell isn't. No free publicity for a mover, & shaker with ethereal qualities, but seeing Chris Brown is an almost daily occurrence, perpetuating the violence, and envy machine.
Women have free speech rights too, and that includes not
talking to you, just because you made an approach no matter how overt, or
harmless you might feel about it. The CNN broadcast of the hollaback video a
few days before the election should make you stop, and think about how you want
to be perceived as black men in this technological age of cameras on every
corner. Sometimes women don’t speak to you, because they have somewhere to go,
whether that be home, or school. Sometimes women don’t speak to you, because
they’re cautious about their contacts. Think about how you perceive Judge Glenda Hatchett, Sunny
Hostin, Toni Braxton (2014 Book ), Jennifer Lopez (2014 Book), Wendy Williams,
vs Rhiana vs Alicia Keys. Rhiana’s goal is to be Mae West, where Alicia Keys
goal is to be Sade. Each woman is different, and most want respect, whether
that’s silent admiration, in the right place at the right time, or not. Some
women present themselves certain ways to solidify their image, to follow their
soul, or acting out of the box their painted into. All women aren’t the same.
Most of you reading in were born in the technological age of
television, and you have internalized the images that have been projected to
you, and at you. The entertainment industry is predominantly controlled by
white males with some serious issues i.e. Dexter, and Stalker are on our
airwaves. Every white mail is not a Tom Hanks, or a Paul Newman, and it’s
important you realize you’ve been bombarded by negativity, but you have the
choice to think for yourself as the creator gave you free will. You have the
choice to respect yourself, and women like your mother.
When I was young, decades ago, men of different backgrounds
would follow me in their cars while I walked. White men would cruise our
neighborhood. Being followed terrified me, and it made me a fast walker with my
hourglass shape. So I thanked God for descent men that didn’t give me a second
look, especially when I was on the job doing my work, where I as any woman
needed to concentrate on priorities for career advancement, paying my own way
for shelter, being a fashion plate, and taking care of business. Men can impact
a woman’s life positively, or negatively with the way they relate to her in a
variety of venues, whether a stranger, acquaintance, or boyfriend. Don’t plot
to ruin a woman’s reputation, because she won’t give you the time of day. Move
on to someone who will treasure you even if you don’t make a connection
instantly. Anyone worth having is worth the wait it takes to get to know
someone who wants to know you.
The truth of the matter is men idolize women with either
their hearts, minds, eyes or all of the above in good, and bad ways, and it’s
been that way since the dawn of time.
It was a shame the model interviewed from the hollaback web site received perhaps 100 hollers of unwanted attention in broad
daylight in a city of 7 million.
The moral to the story is young guys, and even older guys
need guidance, and to be reprogrammed into how to treat a lady (from decades of rap, and heavy metal tracks), and that’s any
lady walking down the street alone in the daytime, or the night time possibly
from a second shift job trying to get home, commuting to school, or home to her
babies so that she feels protected, and looked out for, and not ashamed for existing.
If you’re a together man take some of the guys from the
block to the pool hall, and play some billiards with them. Teach them the angles on the
table, and the angles on getting what they want, if they ask the right way in due time, perhaps a woman might be receptive, and seeking out ones company versus high pressure tactics
the other way around! Every stroke is different, and the soft angles are the
most effective. Isleys ppn boom is a case in point.
Some modern girls wait, some take a chance, and will wave
back trying not to offend your awkward advance. Please just assess the
situation before you step into her world with loud cat calls, and honking from
your car calling everyone’s attention to her in the immediate area, whether
she acknowledges you, or tries to walk away in peace, perhaps insulted
by your idea of a complimentary approach. If you’re a woman and you look at
Bing, Yahoo, or CNN you carry a certain degree of fear at all times,
especially if someone’s attempting to make contact at night. The girl you
desire might not watch Bravo or listen to rap, or heavy metal when it’s her choice,
and if she does she still might not want to be distracted by you.
CNN played a critical role in the recovery of a nurse
abducted in the city of brotherly love, and saved by a dedicated network of police.
Three women were held in Cleaveland for a decade as slaves, and who knows how
many missing persons that were women, would have been alright if their intuition
had kicked in, and they had the chance not to acknowledge their torturer. Give
a girl a chance to live in peace, and in turn yourself. Girls don’t know who
they’re talking to these days, and many prefer not to talk at all. Respect
that. Please contemplate what you want out of life, and how to get it with a
legitimate hustle, generally gained from a community college, university
education, or something positive so someone might reach out to pick you, because you know where you're going.
A woman’s goal is to be secure in herself, and achieve
whatever she can. Man has historically been a protector, whether in or out of the military. As a man wherever you
are, you have the possibility to achieve if you apply the opportunities of
building your life through perseverance. Don’t give up, and go with the crowd. If
you can take someone’s love for you through a sermon of words, you might develop the
quiet space to see your way to the horizon with peace. Home ownership is the goal to a pleasurable life. Guys like Richard Sherman know that shouting is for the
field of sports not the board room of life. Some people are gifted with
athletics, music, art, math, etc., find your gift, and increase it while you contemplate your life over a bowl of Cambells Chunky Soup, and support someone besides yourself.
Girls go to bars to dance. Introduce yourself there, or at
church. Don’t treat a woman like a low life shouting at her as she walks down
the street, because it’s dangerous to respond in this day, and age when you don't know who you're talking to.
Girls keep your keys out, and ready if you have to walk at
night. Beware at all times. Get ready because another rap movie is in
production, and I haven’t heard a word about the Donald Byrd story in
development? My feminine perspective is we need to see some soul searching men
center stage on the big screen for someone to aspire to. It’s time to change
the entertainment game. It depresses women, and men about what’s to come, especially if they've ever experienced grief.
What new scenario could possibly be next?
Black youth are traumatized after analyzing the distance Michael Brown was from the car when he was struck down, and Jordan's "loud" music in a car where he was a passenger, that tragically cost him his life. Black men are traumatized for fear for their sons, cousins, and nephews after over 300 incidents of superiority in the last year directed at young black males. Logically 10% should be scrutizned closely.
Twitter
can be a partially safe place where the clueless can adopt a parent, make
friends, and stream in positive thoughts with discernment, or the knowledgeable
can nourish the soul of those desiring a connection with someone who's navigated life's twists & turns. If it doesn’t look right unfollow it immediately. Don’t
villainize yourself, or let anyone villainize you. Stand tall for walking the
straight, and narrow on the road to achievement, or fall from a crooked path someone paved for you.
Every young man isn't Jesse Matthews, or Devlin Barnes, because they whistle at a female. However, it's clearly a dangerous world, and a safer world with the FBI's resources, and the technology of video tape. Sad but true, because black males largely didn't vote this election cycle to let politicians know you felt neglected in the relationship, now you will be even more scrutinized for a small percentage of your brethren's actions. To vote is to steer your mothership in an uplifting direction, and groove.
Always be your brother's & sister's keeper not their adversary. 2014 new books that might hold your attention is Philip
Bailey, “Shining Star (EWF)", Herbie Hancock “Possibilities,” and George Benson,
“BENSON” for rights of male passage. Then there's Chante Moore, “Would
You Marry Me,” and Jennifer Lopez "True Love." All available on Amazon. Read & expand your mind. Don't be boxed in by popular opinion. Just because someone says it's so, doesn't mean it's so. Each of you is a grain of sand that can build castles. As Taylor Swift would say "Speak Now" or forever hold your peace.
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